so, i know that is a really weird title for a post written by umm... me... considering i'm not married and won't be any time soon... but i was thinking about a conversation with my RA Amy a couple weeks ago... she's an ICS (intercultural studies) major and was wanting to help me with my frustrations with transition... just so i could have someone to talk to... it was really good because i hadn't really talked to anyone for awhile about transition stuff -- besides writing about it here on my blog... which i realize i do quite frequently. she compared adjusting to a new country to a person's first couple years of marriage... first you're in the honeymoon stage... you arrive in the country and everything is incredible... and you're on a high of this "new experience" that is so great... but then you go through rocky ups and downs... because you realize it wasn't as glamorous as you thought it would be... and you become depressed even because you miss life like it was before where you're at... thoughts like, "if only i was somewhere else, i would be happy..." or whatnot... and it's this process of accepting and loving and being ok with everything that is this new place... rather than resenting it because it stole away everything that was familiar.
...you know, just the fact that i can write so much about this should show that i have been slowly seeing the light... because when i am most overwhelmed is when i can't see anything clearly enough to write about it... it's when i'm looking back that i can have 20-20 vision... and see what's really going on.
anyway... i thought it was an interesting analogy, to say the least... and it really made me think. but a lot of things do, i suppose.
a lovely video i made today of a song i wrote awhile ago... put to a slideshow of images... i thought you might enjoy... :
2 comments:
Jeni!!!! i LOVE you slideshow!!! hehehe!!! i recognized waaaay too many of those pictures. XD i can't believe you put up pics from that Starbucks run that my mom took us on!! hahaha!!
oh my gosh Jeni... i miss you so much!
i'm so glad you have help with transitioning. i don't have much; i'm just making things up as i go.. but friends and a brother nearby are lots of comfort.
oh ya, and i absolutely LOVE the analogy!! hehehehe!!! i've had the same thing with dating, and it's something to REALLY watch out for in ANY new situation.
much love Jeni!
~Mel
Hi Jen - thanks for showing us this video last night. I love it! I was looking for a "like" button or something like on facebook, but I guess this will have to do.
Your blog inspired me last night. It reminded me of a song I wrote a long time ago, which I looked for and actually found - on my old-fashioned "paper blog" from Navy days back in my 20's. I started working on transferring some meaningful entries over into my real blog, and ended up staying up way too late. But sometimes that's how inspiration works, and you just gratefully accept its intrusion into your otherwise tidy schedule. Thank you for being an inspiration :)
Love you!
Dad
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